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Some guys finish college, step out into the real world, and then realize that they have no way of finding or meeting a quality girl, much less dating one. Learn how to meet women after college.

How To Meet Women After College

This is an issue that lots of guys have once they get out of the college atmosphere and step out into real life.

I found this question on a random forum recently and I thought that it would make a great post.

I’m looking for some advice. I’ve been out of college for a few years (turning 25 this summer) and it’s easy to notice that meeting women is far more difficult. I’m not the type of guy that likes bars or clubs, and I don’t want to go to church for the wrong reasons. I’m not shy, but I’m not terribly outgoing either. I hang out with friends as much as possible, so any connections they have should be available but that is really quite dry.

It seems like women the same age have plenty of guys to choose from, but there are fewer women to choose from for the single guys. I’ve thought about activities that I can meet women at, but everything I’m interested in is dude-centric (automotive, motorcycle related etc…).

What are some things I can try doing without being someone I’m not? Also, for someone who doesn’t want the stigma of a “pickup artist douchebag”, how do you approach an attractive female when you are out?

So, college days are over and now you’ve found out that meeting pretty ladies is a bit more difficult.

Things change once you step out into the real world, where weekly parties and classes full of eligible young women are no longer at your fingertips everyday.

Some guys finish college, step out into the real world, and then realize that they have no way of finding or meeting a quality girl, much less dating one. This is even more true if bars and clubs aren’t really your thing.

How To Meet Women After College: Where to Go

We listed lots of different places to meet women with examples for how to do so at each one. Here are some of the locations:

This list goes on and on – which brings me to the main point of how to go about meeting women after college:

The more that you are willing to approach women who you have never met, the greater your chances of finding a great girl that really spins your propeller.

This is, hands down, the most direct path to meeting really great girls.

If you’re in a new city where you don’t know anyone, I can think of no better way to start building a great dating life while searching for your Total Ten than learning how to approach women in as many different situations as possible.

Personally, I like approaching women I find attractive because it gives me the greatest degree of control over my dating life.

Could I wait around for friends to introduce me to a girl?

Sure, but that never worked out well for me, it’s highly dependent on who your friends know, and simply isn’t as immediate as getting up, getting out and putting things in motion by myself. I prefer taking action over passively hoping for something better.

“But, isn’t approaching women hard or scary?”

Imagine how simple your life could be if you knew that you had the ability to walk up to any woman and say a confident “hello.”

Every pretty girl you see would potentially be the woman of your dreams.

Is it hard and scary? For some guys, it is… Until they get more experience.

And let’s get something straight. Some guys are apprehensive about going out specifically to meet women. A lot of this, I believe, comes from the fact that some guys feel “sleazy” about this. With the goal and aim of most dating advice, it’s no surprise that the guy in the question above is hesitant about approaching women.

In my experience, when you are honest (most importantly with yourself) about the fact that you’re actively searching for a really great woman, it becomes a very normal, and even respectable thing to approach women everywhere you go.

I’ve approached women who are with their mom, dad and brothers this way and felt nothing but kindness and sincere respect (even when the girl wasn’t interested).

You can find a lot of advice about approaching women out on the internet. I disagree with most of it (based on my own testing and experience).

If you’re looking to date lots of really wonderful women while building the skills necessary to meet your Total Ten, you can pretty much scrap all the BS approaching women advice you’ll find on the internet.

Most of it is based around chasing women, rather than meeting them as a high value man who is straightforward and honest.

Instead, I recommend following a strategy of identification to help you learn how to meet women after college while building the skills needed to make meeting beautiful women both easy, natural and fun.

This was a short article on how to meet women after college so leave a comment. One of the guys here will respond to all comments.

What was your biggest challenge when it came to figuring out how to meet women after college?

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How To Meet Women After College

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I found this question on a random forum recently and I thought that it would make a great post.

I’m looking for some advice. I’ve been out of college for a few years (turning 25 this summer) and it’s easy to notice that meeting women is far more difficult. I’m not the type of guy that likes bars or clubs, and I don’t want to go to church for the wrong reasons. I’m not shy, but I’m not terribly outgoing either. I hang out with friends as much as possible, so any connections they have should be available but that is really quite dry.

It seems like women the same age have plenty of guys to choose from, but there are fewer women to choose from for the single guys. I’ve thought about activities that I can meet women at, but everything I’m interested in is dude-centric (automotive, motorcycle related etc…).

What are some things I can try doing without being someone I’m not? Also, for someone who doesn’t want the stigma of a “pickup artist douchebag”, how do you approach an attractive female when you are out?

So, college days are over and now you’ve found out that meeting pretty ladies is a bit more difficult.

Things change once you step out into the real world, where weekly parties and classes full of eligible young women are no longer at your fingertips everyday.

Some guys finish college, step out into the real world, and then realize that they have no way of finding or meeting a quality girl, much less dating one. This is even more true if bars and clubs aren’t really your thing.

How To Meet Women After College: Where to Go

We listed lots of different places to meet women with examples for how to do so at each one. Here are some of the locations:

This list goes on and on – which brings me to the main point of how to go about meeting women after college:

The more that you are willing to approach women who you have never met, the greater your chances of finding a great girl that really spins your propeller.

This is, hands down, the most direct path to meeting really great girls.

If you’re in a new city where you don’t know anyone, I can think of no better way to start building a great dating life while searching for your Total Ten than learning how to approach women in as many different situations as possible.

Personally, I like approaching women I find attractive because it gives me the greatest degree of control over my dating life.

Could I wait around for friends to introduce me to a girl?

Sure, but that never worked out well for me, it’s highly dependent on who your friends know, and simply isn’t as immediate as getting up, getting out and putting things in motion by myself. I prefer taking action over passively hoping for something better.

“But, isn’t approaching women hard or scary?”

Imagine how simple your life could be if you knew that you had the ability to walk up to any woman and say a confident “hello.”

Every pretty girl you see would potentially be the woman of your dreams.

Is it hard and scary? For some guys, it is… Until they get more experience.

And let’s get something straight. Some guys are apprehensive about going out specifically to meet women. A lot of this, I believe, comes from the fact that some guys feel “sleazy” about this. With the goal and aim of most dating advice, it’s no surprise that the guy in the question above is hesitant about approaching women.

In my experience, when you are honest (most importantly with yourself) about the fact that you’re actively searching for a really great woman, it becomes a very normal, and even respectable thing to approach women everywhere you go.

I’ve approached women who are with their mom, dad and brothers this way and felt nothing but kindness and sincere respect (even when the girl wasn’t interested).

You can find a lot of advice about approaching women out on the internet. I disagree with most of it (based on my own testing and experience).

If you’re looking to date lots of really wonderful women while building the skills necessary to meet your Total Ten, you can pretty much scrap all the BS approaching women advice you’ll find on the internet.

Most of it is based around chasing women, rather than meeting them as a high value man who is straightforward and honest.

Instead, I recommend following a strategy of identification to help you learn how to meet women after college while building the skills needed to make meeting beautiful women both easy, natural and fun.

This was a short article on how to meet women after college so leave a comment. One of the guys here will respond to all comments.

What was your biggest challenge when it came to figuring out how to meet women after college?

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Here is a story of how I approached one sexy, long-legged woman in a skirt at Starbucks.

How To Meet Women At Starbucks

I love going to Starbucks, or any cafe, and doing work/writing while also keeping my eyes peeled for any pretty women.

Starbucks/cafes/coffee shops are wonderful places to meet women. The opportunities are as endless and the types of women you can meet here.

How To Meet Women At Starbucks: My Story

I went to Starbucks one day to do some work on my laptop.

As always, I chose a good seat: one that gave me view of the door and a wide view of the people inside. Always good to have a good seat. You never know when you might meet the woman of your dreams.

After a while a tall girl with a knee-length skirt walked in and caught my eye. *Very* pretty girl. Nice long legs (just my type).

While she was waiting on her drink we made eye contact.

I smiled and nodded slightly.

She blushed.

I noticed that she sat down somewhere behind me (there was a small partition between us).

Since I was facing the entrance of the Starbucks, I knew that she wouldn’t be able to leave without me approaching her, so I went back to doing my work (I was on a roll).

Later on, when I reached a good pausing point, I turned over my shoulder to see where she was to go talk to her. By some strange coincidence she was looking over her shoulder looking at me.

I went to her table.

Me: “Excuse me. Can I sit here?”

Girl: (She moves her stuff off the chair next to her) “Sure.”

Me: (I sit down) “Hi, what’s your name?”

We shook hands and she held mine a lot longer than necessary.

I knew the feeling.

I made her laugh and we then had a light, very playful conversation.

She asked my name after bantering for about 5-10 minutes.

It was somewhat awkward sitting right next to each other in the position our seats were in (I was somewhat in the aisle) so I moved my chair across from her. I put my hand out on the table where she could touch me if she needed to (touching is one of the typical sign a girl likes you).

She asked questions, I gave funny answers, then we bantered along those lines.

We talked in Starbucks for about 45 minutes.

She laughed A LOT.

Said she was having a lot of fun.

Said she’s glad she came to Starbucks.

She touched me once on the forearm about half-way through while she was laughing.

Almost touched me a second time while laughing but then hesitated and kept her hands to herself.

She never opened any negative topics about herself or showed any red flags that might scare me off. She had good manners. About 5 minutes after meeting she got a work-related call on her phone. She apologized and asked permission to talk. Then apologized again and thanked me after finishing.

By the end of our impromptu coffee date she had made a good impression on me. There was clear chemistry and she had no red flags.

Guys who have read our posts about coffee dates will know that this is about the average time to spend with a girl getting to know her over coffee.

Girl: “So what are you up to now? ”

Me: (I think about it for a second and jokingly look at my non-existent watch) “Actually, I have to be somewhere…in space. Where are you headed?”

Her: “XYZ”

Me: “Cool. I’ll walk you there.”

While walking I offered her my arm and she clung on to it.

She asked how we’ll contact each other again so I got her phone number around this time.

We talked on the phone while standing right next to each other. Always good for a laugh.

When we reached a good place to part ways…

Me: “I had fun today.”

Her: “Thank you.”

Me: “Thanks.”

Then I turn and walk away.

Fun times.

How To Meet Women At Starbucks: Conclusion

It’s all a very simple and straightforward process. Simply keep your eyes peeled and approach the women you find attractive. Stop chasing and start Identifying women who you share chemistry with and everything becomes a whole lot more simple.

I’ve got plenty more Starbucks/cafe/coffee shop approach stories so leave a comment letting me know what kind you’d like to read about.

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Here is a story of how I approached one sexy, long-legged woman in a skirt at Starbucks.

How To Meet Women At Starbucks

I love going to Starbucks, or any cafe, and doing work/writing while also keeping my eyes peeled for any pretty women.

Starbucks/cafes/coffee shops are wonderful places to meet women. The opportunities are as endless and the types of women you can meet here.

How To Meet Women At Starbucks: My Story

I went to Starbucks one day to do some work on my laptop.

As always, I chose a good seat: one that gave me view of the door and a wide view of the people inside. Always good to have a good seat. You never know when you might meet the woman of your dreams.

After a while a tall girl with a knee-length skirt walked in and caught my eye. *Very* pretty girl. Nice long legs (just my type).

While she was waiting on her drink we made eye contact.

I smiled and nodded slightly.

She blushed.

I noticed that she sat down somewhere behind me (there was a small partition between us).

Since I was facing the entrance of the Starbucks, I knew that she wouldn’t be able to leave without me approaching her, so I went back to doing my work (I was on a roll).

Later on, when I reached a good pausing point, I turned over my shoulder to see where she was to go talk to her. By some strange coincidence she was looking over her shoulder looking at me.

I went to her table.

Me: “Excuse me. Can I sit here?”

Girl: (She moves her stuff off the chair next to her) “Sure.”

Me: (I sit down) “Hi, what’s your name?”

We shook hands and she held mine a lot longer than necessary.

I knew the feeling.

I made her laugh and we then had a light, very playful conversation.

She asked my name after bantering for about 5-10 minutes.

It was somewhat awkward sitting right next to each other in the position our seats were in (I was somewhat in the aisle) so I moved my chair across from her. I put my hand out on the table where she could touch me if she needed to (touching is one of the typical sign a girl likes you).

She asked questions, I gave funny answers, then we bantered along those lines.

We talked in Starbucks for about 45 minutes.

She laughed A LOT.

Said she was having a lot of fun.

Said she’s glad she came to Starbucks.

She touched me once on the forearm about half-way through while she was laughing.

Almost touched me a second time while laughing but then hesitated and kept her hands to herself.

She never opened any negative topics about herself or showed any red flags that might scare me off. She had good manners. About 5 minutes after meeting she got a work-related call on her phone. She apologized and asked permission to talk. Then apologized again and thanked me after finishing.

By the end of our impromptu coffee date she had made a good impression on me. There was clear chemistry and she had no red flags.

Guys who have read our posts about coffee dates will know that this is about the average time to spend with a girl getting to know her over coffee.

Girl: “So what are you up to now? ”

Me: (I think about it for a second and jokingly look at my non-existent watch) “Actually, I have to be somewhere…in space. Where are you headed?”

Her: “XYZ”

Me: “Cool. I’ll walk you there.”

While walking I offered her my arm and she clung on to it.

She asked how we’ll contact each other again so I got her phone number around this time.

We talked on the phone while standing right next to each other. Always good for a laugh.

When we reached a good place to part ways…

Me: “I had fun today.”

Her: “Thank you.”

Me: “Thanks.”

Then I turn and walk away.

Fun times.

How To Meet Women At Starbucks: Conclusion

It’s all a very simple and straightforward process. Simply keep your eyes peeled and approach the women you find attractive. Stop chasing and start Identifying women who you share chemistry with and everything becomes a whole lot more simple.

I’ve got plenty more Starbucks/cafe/coffee shop approach stories so leave a comment letting me know what kind you’d like to read about.

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Being able to accept ‘no’ as an answer is a reflection of having an abundance reality in dating . Similarly, being able to SAY no also comes from having perception, insight, judgment, balls and integrity. Turning down offers that are no good is, quite literally, a vital skill, especially for men who want to date high quality women.

This includes the ability to turn away people (guys or girls) who don’t make your life better, even when the situation compels you to continue.

Saying “No” to people and situations that we know aren’t good for us builds integrity and consistency in one’s self and one’s own beliefs. Unfortunately, some guys just can’t do this because their minds are so caught up in “getting some” even when they feel it wreaking havoc on their sanity…

Here’s an example of how it’s done. Recently, I met an attractive woman on the street downtown. She had an exotic, soft face and a curvy figure (in the good way!).

Her vibe was weird, but nothing so off the mark to disqualify her right away.

When I called her up…

John Robie: Hey (her name), this is JR. We met downtown a while ago ago.

Her: Oh hey JR! How are you doing?

JR: Good, good. I’m calling to invite you out for coffee. Which time is better, Tuesday or Wednesday evening?

Her: Hmm… Um… Let’s see… Tuesday evening.

JR: Alrighty. Let’s meet at (major landmark 1), 7:00pm.

Her: I don’t know (major landmark 1)…

JR: Ok then. How about (major landmark 2)?

Her: Um…

At that point, I was about to just disqualify her for not being with the program (having plenty of quality backups is fun), but…

Her: How about we meet where we first met on the street!

JR: Sure. Let’s meet there.

Her: Ok!

JR: I’ll see you then. Bye now.

Her: Bye.

Some guys put their wallets and their sanity through the grinder for a shot at sex.

She showed up about 7 minutes late. She was dressed casually and looked pretty good with her face dolled up along with her impressive figure. I extended my hand, and something felt a bit off in way she shook it – a bit too limp and nonchalant. We started walking to coffee shop and she immediately started digging for my personal information in a way that was slightly off.

Side note: We advise guys to be wary of women who will fake interest in you because they have an agenda. We want all of our guys with amazing women who actually like them and want to be with them, not girls who just use them and drain their wallets. Sometimes, when things “feel off” it’s really a sign of larger problems (sometimes not). The truth comes out in time so keep your eyes open, go slow and have fun.

Back to the story – after we started walking towards the cafe, she went for “What’s your job?” right away:

Her: “What’s your job?”

JR: “My job? My jooooob?” (incredulous and smiling)

Her: “Where are you from?”

JR: “…”

Now at this point, she’s launching random questions without even giving me a chance to answer.

Her: “Where are you from?”

JR: “I’m from space.” (deadpan)

Maybe it’s not high comedy, but women more attractive than this one have laughed it, and others even harder at more ridiculous answers.

Her: “Wha… Spain?”

JR: “Space.” (pointing up) “It’s really far away, you know? Takes about 20 minutes by bus. How about you? Where are you from?”

Her: “Oh! No, there’s no countries in space! Let me check…”

She then pulled out her smart phone (usually a bad move for any guy or girl on a date) and actually looked up countries in space… (Wtf?! Really?) All the while her attention was completely removed from me and on her phone. My ‘disqualify-o-meter’ was teetering right on the edge. I smiled silently while she checked her phone for a moment. She closed it, seemingly satisfied.

Her: “You’re not from space! Do you like jokes or something?” (She sounded annoyed.)

Me: “Of course. How about you – do you like jokes?“

Her: “I HATE jokes.” (She said this with no smile, no humorous tone and with a trace of venom in her voice.)

Me: “Well, I don’t think this date is going to be any fun. Bye.” (My hand outstretched.)

Her: “…Bye.” (Her jaw dropping in surprise.)

I walked away here because I could see that this date was truly, actually going to be nothing but a pain in the behind for both of us. I wasn’t willing to sit across from her for even 5 minutes pounding my head in the wall trying to make conversation with her.

Likewise, she didn’t laugh at my jokes while showing off a bad attitude. Some people might argue, “Well, your jokes weren’t funny.” I would agree, I don’t think they’re that funny either, so it blows my mind when extremely sexy women with attitudes far better than this one laugh at my jokes that are even lamer than the ones above. When they like you, they laugh at practically anything you say.

Others might argue, “Well hey bro, you didn’t spark enough attraction! Plus you ‘gave up’ when she was testing you. That’s not manly.” Once again, I would agree: There certainly was very little attraction, from me anyways. I gave up on her as a serious or even ‘just for fun’ dating prospect as soon as I found out she didn’t have much to offer other than good looks and a bad attitude. There are simply way too many women with great looks and a great attitude to settle for less. When they like you, they do all they can to make your life better . So yes, it would be extremely ‘not manly’ to roll over, accept her bad attitude and settle for continuing on the date with her.

Now why didn’t we ‘click?’ Why was there no chemistry? We could speculate all day long about why, but the fact of the matter is I personally felt we weren’t compatible and walked away as soon as I realized it … Exercising my ability to Say No, and in doing so preserving my time, money, energy and integrity.

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Being able to accept ‘no’ as an answer is a reflection of having an abundance reality in dating . Similarly, being able to SAY no also comes from having perception, insight, judgment, balls and integrity. Turning down offers that are no good is, quite literally, a vital skill, especially for men who want to date high quality women.

This includes the ability to turn away people (guys or girls) who don’t make your life better, even when the situation compels you to continue.

Saying “No” to people and situations that we know aren’t good for us builds integrity and consistency in one’s self and one’s own beliefs. Unfortunately, some guys just can’t do this because their minds are so caught up in “getting some” even when they feel it wreaking havoc on their sanity…

Here’s an example of how it’s done. Recently, I met an attractive woman on the street downtown. She had an exotic, soft face and a curvy figure (in the good way!).

Her vibe was weird, but nothing so off the mark to disqualify her right away.

When I called her up…

John Robie: Hey (her name), this is JR. We met downtown a while ago ago.

Her: Oh hey JR! How are you doing?

JR: Good, good. I’m calling to invite you out for coffee. Which time is better, Tuesday or Wednesday evening?

Her: Hmm… Um… Let’s see… Tuesday evening.

JR: Alrighty. Let’s meet at (major landmark 1), 7:00pm.

Her: I don’t know (major landmark 1)…

JR: Ok then. How about (major landmark 2)?

Her: Um…

At that point, I was about to just disqualify her for not being with the program (having plenty of quality backups is fun), but…

Her: How about we meet where we first met on the street!

JR: Sure. Let’s meet there.

Her: Ok!

JR: I’ll see you then. Bye now.

Her: Bye.

Some guys put their wallets and their sanity through the grinder for a shot at sex.

She showed up about 7 minutes late. She was dressed casually and looked pretty good with her face dolled up along with her impressive figure. I extended my hand, and something felt a bit off in way she shook it – a bit too limp and nonchalant. We started walking to coffee shop and she immediately started digging for my personal information in a way that was slightly off.

Side note: We advise guys to be wary of women who will fake interest in you because they have an agenda. We want all of our guys with amazing women who actually like them and want to be with them, not girls who just use them and drain their wallets. Sometimes, when things “feel off” it’s really a sign of larger problems (sometimes not). The truth comes out in time so keep your eyes open, go slow and have fun.

Back to the story – after we started walking towards the cafe, she went for “What’s your job?” right away:

Her: “What’s your job?”

JR: “My job? My jooooob?” (incredulous and smiling)

Her: “Where are you from?”

JR: “…”

Now at this point, she’s launching random questions without even giving me a chance to answer.

Her: “Where are you from?”

JR: “I’m from space.” (deadpan)

Maybe it’s not high comedy, but women more attractive than this one have laughed it, and others even harder at more ridiculous answers.

Her: “Wha… Spain?”

JR: “Space.” (pointing up) “It’s really far away, you know? Takes about 20 minutes by bus. How about you? Where are you from?”

Her: “Oh! No, there’s no countries in space! Let me check…”

She then pulled out her smart phone (usually a bad move for any guy or girl on a date) and actually looked up countries in space… (Wtf?! Really?) All the while her attention was completely removed from me and on her phone. My ‘disqualify-o-meter’ was teetering right on the edge. I smiled silently while she checked her phone for a moment. She closed it, seemingly satisfied.

Her: “You’re not from space! Do you like jokes or something?” (She sounded annoyed.)

Me: “Of course. How about you – do you like jokes?“

Her: “I HATE jokes.” (She said this with no smile, no humorous tone and with a trace of venom in her voice.)

Me: “Well, I don’t think this date is going to be any fun. Bye.” (My hand outstretched.)

Her: “…Bye.” (Her jaw dropping in surprise.)

I walked away here because I could see that this date was truly, actually going to be nothing but a pain in the behind for both of us. I wasn’t willing to sit across from her for even 5 minutes pounding my head in the wall trying to make conversation with her.

Likewise, she didn’t laugh at my jokes while showing off a bad attitude. Some people might argue, “Well, your jokes weren’t funny.” I would agree, I don’t think they’re that funny either, so it blows my mind when extremely sexy women with attitudes far better than this one laugh at my jokes that are even lamer than the ones above. When they like you, they laugh at practically anything you say.

Others might argue, “Well hey bro, you didn’t spark enough attraction! Plus you ‘gave up’ when she was testing you. That’s not manly.” Once again, I would agree: There certainly was very little attraction, from me anyways. I gave up on her as a serious or even ‘just for fun’ dating prospect as soon as I found out she didn’t have much to offer other than good looks and a bad attitude. There are simply way too many women with great looks and a great attitude to settle for less. When they like you, they do all they can to make your life better . So yes, it would be extremely ‘not manly’ to roll over, accept her bad attitude and settle for continuing on the date with her.

Now why didn’t we ‘click?’ Why was there no chemistry? We could speculate all day long about why, but the fact of the matter is I personally felt we weren’t compatible and walked away as soon as I realized it … Exercising my ability to Say No, and in doing so preserving my time, money, energy and integrity.

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There’s a lot of misinformation about meeting women in bars and clubs. In this article, we shed light on the truth and explain how to do it quickly and effectively.

Ahhh, meeting women in bars and clubs…Long hailed as the holy grail of meeting women by guys who haven’t learned how to effectively meet women elsewhere, meeting women in bars and clubs has proven to be one of the most inefficient places to meet really hot, high value women with incredible attitudes who honestly like you.

However, guys keep asking us how to go about meeting women in bars and clubs, so by popular request, here’s how we roll in bars and clubs when we’re looking to meet women there.

To make things clear, we recommend that guys who live in major metropolitan areas meet women outside bars and clubs (and by outside we don’t mean in front of the entrance of the bar or club). Although there are a variety of reasons we prefer to meet women in places other than bars and clubs, the main one is that you can meet hotter and exponentially more women out on the street for only a fraction of the time, money and energy you would invest in any visit to your local happenin’ place or watering hole.

Meeting Girls in Bars And Clubs Quickly And Efficiently

First of all, no ‘wingmen.’

As much as we enjoy a fun night out with the guys, when it comes to meeting women, going ‘hunting in packs’ has repeatedly proven to be slow, ineffective and inefficient…

If you want to spend time with friends, then BE WITH THEM. Be present with your friends. Make it quality time.

If you want to meet women, MEET WOMEN. Doing both at once decreases both the quality of your interactions and the effectiveness of your ability to meet women.

Hilariously, there are some “pick up companies” who teach guys “how to approach women” by recommending they sit around for TWO WHOLE HOURS at the clubs before ever talking to any girls every night they go out. Talk about a bass-ackwards strategy for meeting women!

Meet Women In Bars And Clubs: Step-By-Step

Talk to every woman in the bar or the club.

We do it just as we would anywhere else by approaching them with “Hello. What’s your name?””

Then, if she’s interested in us enough to smile, give us her name and talk with us, we’ll engage her in a light, playful, funny (read about making her laugh here) conversation for about 3-10 minutes before asking for their phone number.

Now some guys might say, “But getting numbers at bars / clubs is a waste of time! Shouldn’t you try to pull a girl home?”

While we fully agree that heading to a bar or a club with the purpose of collecting numbers is a waste of time, and we agree that following up on numbers you get in a bar or a club is also probably a waste of time – asking a woman for her phone number is a litmus test that gives you information: is this woman into you enough and open enough to give you her phone number? If she is, then later on in the night, she might be receptive to a more personal proposal when you come back around to her before leaving.

So, after she gives us her name and her number (or neither), we then wish her a nice evening, and head off to talk to another woman. Sometimes there won’t be any women who we hit it off with, and that’s fine. Simply step to all the attractive ones you see, ask their name and their number, and leave the venue when you’ve talked to all the ones you find attractive.

For guys intent on ‘getting a girl’ that very night, before leaving, go back around to any of the women who were receptive to you and make them a straightforward, direct offer to leave with you. If none are interested, wish them well and leave the venue.

Using this method, we can usually talk to all the attractive women in the largest clubs in major metropolitan areas within an hour or less. Once we’ve talked to all the women we’re interested in at a given bar or club, we go to the next bar and/or club, and repeat until:

  • there are either no more bars or clubs to go to,
  • a woman decides she wants to spend more time with us alone,
  • or we decide to call it a night, go home, get a good night’s sleep and/or work on a project that will bear more useful fruit (learn an instrument, study a language, build a business, practice a martial art, read a book, write a novel, or meet more women on the street / in cafes / at bus+train hubs / in malls after a refreshing full night’s sleep.)

I’m starting to swerve off way off topic from meeting women in bars and clubs, but that’s kind of the point – meeting women in bars IS way off the topic when you want to find hot, high value women of integrity and accomplishment who honestly like you.

And that’s what we’re all about here at Loveawake – to help guys become the kind of Amazing Men that find, meet, attract and continually enjoy Amazing Women of exceptional beauty and accomplishment.

However, we understand that in some living situations, bars and clubs might be the guys’ only option for meeting lots of women quickly. And that’s how we recommend meeting women in bars and clubs.

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There’s a lot of misinformation about meeting women in bars and clubs. In this article, we shed light on the truth and explain how to do it quickly and effectively.

Ahhh, meeting women in bars and clubs…Long hailed as the holy grail of meeting women by guys who haven’t learned how to effectively meet women elsewhere, meeting women in bars and clubs has proven to be one of the most inefficient places to meet really hot, high value women with incredible attitudes who honestly like you.

However, guys keep asking us how to go about meeting women in bars and clubs, so by popular request, here’s how we roll in bars and clubs when we’re looking to meet women there.

To make things clear, we recommend that guys who live in major metropolitan areas meet women outside bars and clubs (and by outside we don’t mean in front of the entrance of the bar or club). Although there are a variety of reasons we prefer to meet women in places other than bars and clubs, the main one is that you can meet hotter and exponentially more women out on the street for only a fraction of the time, money and energy you would invest in any visit to your local happenin’ place or watering hole.

Meeting Girls in Bars And Clubs Quickly And Efficiently

First of all, no ‘wingmen.’

As much as we enjoy a fun night out with the guys, when it comes to meeting women, going ‘hunting in packs’ has repeatedly proven to be slow, ineffective and inefficient…

If you want to spend time with friends, then BE WITH THEM. Be present with your friends. Make it quality time.

If you want to meet women, MEET WOMEN. Doing both at once decreases both the quality of your interactions and the effectiveness of your ability to meet women.

Hilariously, there are some “pick up companies” who teach guys “how to approach women” by recommending they sit around for TWO WHOLE HOURS at the clubs before ever talking to any girls every night they go out. Talk about a bass-ackwards strategy for meeting women!

Meet Women In Bars And Clubs: Step-By-Step

Talk to every woman in the bar or the club.

We do it just as we would anywhere else by approaching them with “Hello. What’s your name?””

Then, if she’s interested in us enough to smile, give us her name and talk with us, we’ll engage her in a light, playful, funny (read about making her laugh here) conversation for about 3-10 minutes before asking for their phone number.

Now some guys might say, “But getting numbers at bars / clubs is a waste of time! Shouldn’t you try to pull a girl home?”

While we fully agree that heading to a bar or a club with the purpose of collecting numbers is a waste of time, and we agree that following up on numbers you get in a bar or a club is also probably a waste of time – asking a woman for her phone number is a litmus test that gives you information: is this woman into you enough and open enough to give you her phone number? If she is, then later on in the night, she might be receptive to a more personal proposal when you come back around to her before leaving.

So, after she gives us her name and her number (or neither), we then wish her a nice evening, and head off to talk to another woman. Sometimes there won’t be any women who we hit it off with, and that’s fine. Simply step to all the attractive ones you see, ask their name and their number, and leave the venue when you’ve talked to all the ones you find attractive.

For guys intent on ‘getting a girl’ that very night, before leaving, go back around to any of the women who were receptive to you and make them a straightforward, direct offer to leave with you. If none are interested, wish them well and leave the venue.

Using this method, we can usually talk to all the attractive women in the largest clubs in major metropolitan areas within an hour or less. Once we’ve talked to all the women we’re interested in at a given bar or club, we go to the next bar and/or club, and repeat until:

  • there are either no more bars or clubs to go to,
  • a woman decides she wants to spend more time with us alone,
  • or we decide to call it a night, go home, get a good night’s sleep and/or work on a project that will bear more useful fruit (learn an instrument, study a language, build a business, practice a martial art, read a book, write a novel, or meet more women on the street / in cafes / at bus+train hubs / in malls after a refreshing full night’s sleep.)

I’m starting to swerve off way off topic from meeting women in bars and clubs, but that’s kind of the point – meeting women in bars IS way off the topic when you want to find hot, high value women of integrity and accomplishment who honestly like you.

And that’s what we’re all about here at Loveawake – to help guys become the kind of Amazing Men that find, meet, attract and continually enjoy Amazing Women of exceptional beauty and accomplishment.

However, we understand that in some living situations, bars and clubs might be the guys’ only option for meeting lots of women quickly. And that’s how we recommend meeting women in bars and clubs.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594647014) } [4]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(44) "Serious Conversations vs. Making Girls Laugh" ["link"]=> string(82) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/serious-conversations-vs-making-girls-laugh/" ["comments"]=> string(90) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/serious-conversations-vs-making-girls-laugh/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 13:02:32 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(10) "Andrew Tch" } ["category"]=> string(32) "Dating Advicecommunicationdating" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5386" ["description"]=> string(317) "Making Girls Laugh By Not Taking Them Seriously At All One particular evening, I found myself at a party of about 35-50 people, entertaining two young women. They weren’t my type, but since it was a party, I happily took the opportunity to joke around with them and enjoy myself. Needless to say, I simply […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(5423) "

Making Girls Laugh By Not Taking Them Seriously At All

One particular evening, I found myself at a party of about 35-50 people, entertaining two young women. They weren’t my type, but since it was a party, I happily took the opportunity to joke around with them and enjoy myself.

Needless to say, I simply was not taking anything they said seriously at all.

My level of not-seriousness was reaching an unusual high – when they asked the usual getting-to-know-you style questions, I told them I was a space pilot on a secret mission from the moon.

They thought it was hilarious – it was all just fun and games (which is even more true if I would have been attracted these two women).

Just Another Lighthearted Evening Of Making Girls Laugh, Until…

I’m Serious Cat and it’s time for some Serious Dating Advice. No fun allowed, and definitely no laughing.

Everything was going fine… Until a third female was introduced into our conversation.

“This is our friend.”

She had a dour, beaten down look about her. She wasn’t smiling and had rings under her eyes.

Her: Where are you from?

Me: From space, of course.

The other two kept laughing, while this one’s mood dampened even more (if that’s possible).

Her: No. (Long pause.) You’re not not from space.

Me: … (Smiling)

Her: Where are you from, really?

Me: Technically I’m from the moon, which isn’t really space. And how about you, where are you from?

Her: That’s not funny. You didn’t answer my question.

Me: I know, I know.

Her: … (Serious face, not unlike our good friend Serious Cat posted at the top of this article)

Me: … (Still smiling)

Her: Well? Are you gonna tell me where you’re from?

Me: Nope! And hey, I hope you have a nice evening. Good-bye.

And that was that.

It’s Time To Get Serious!!!

We’ve mentioned in previous articles that one of the secrets to making girls laugh is to find one who already want to laugh with you because they’re into you right from the beginning. Chemistry.

The same goofy (and admittedly lame) jokes that the first two women thought were hilarious, offended the third girl.

Who knows why the first two girls thought I was funny. Maybe they were into me, maybe they like space-related humor.

Ultimately it doesn’t matter as I was just having fun, and they were too.

The fact that girl #3 wasn’t laughing was more indicative of what’s going on with her than with my super-awesome skills with the ladies. Her not joining us in our wacky, fun conversation tells me more about her interest in me (or lack thereof) and her core personality.

She was demanding that I enter her stark, bland world of serious questions, serious answers and serious seriousness.

For guys looking to identify a woman who’s both totally into him and has a great matching personality, nothing should set off the red alert alarms faster than her not laughing. I wished them all adieu and took my leave to the  other end of the party where my audience was much more receptive and much more fun.

Making Girls Laugh Is A Tool

Remember, making girls laugh is simply another tool for Identifying women who are into you. It’s also extremely useful for helping you enjoy yourself with a woman who likes you while allowing her to have fun too. Girls just want to have fun.

If she wants to get serious, especially so early in the interaction, my advice is to simply cut her loose and go find a woman better suited to you, because Ms. Serious is going to seriously spoil your spirits the longer you keep her around.

And it works both ways, guys. It’s your job to avoid taking a turn down serious street too, unless you want the high quality women to drop you like a sack of bricks. Ignore the Hollywood myth that women want a guy who gets serious and shares his emotions. It sounds nice and romantic, but it never works out in real life. The strongest couples we have seen and interviewed always keep that playful element strong years and even decades into the relationship.

Rule #1: Never take anything she says or does seriously.

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Making Girls Laugh By Not Taking Them Seriously At All

One particular evening, I found myself at a party of about 35-50 people, entertaining two young women. They weren’t my type, but since it was a party, I happily took the opportunity to joke around with them and enjoy myself.

Needless to say, I simply was not taking anything they said seriously at all.

My level of not-seriousness was reaching an unusual high – when they asked the usual getting-to-know-you style questions, I told them I was a space pilot on a secret mission from the moon.

They thought it was hilarious – it was all just fun and games (which is even more true if I would have been attracted these two women).

Just Another Lighthearted Evening Of Making Girls Laugh, Until…

I’m Serious Cat and it’s time for some Serious Dating Advice. No fun allowed, and definitely no laughing.

Everything was going fine… Until a third female was introduced into our conversation.

“This is our friend.”

She had a dour, beaten down look about her. She wasn’t smiling and had rings under her eyes.

Her: Where are you from?

Me: From space, of course.

The other two kept laughing, while this one’s mood dampened even more (if that’s possible).

Her: No. (Long pause.) You’re not not from space.

Me: … (Smiling)

Her: Where are you from, really?

Me: Technically I’m from the moon, which isn’t really space. And how about you, where are you from?

Her: That’s not funny. You didn’t answer my question.

Me: I know, I know.

Her: … (Serious face, not unlike our good friend Serious Cat posted at the top of this article)

Me: … (Still smiling)

Her: Well? Are you gonna tell me where you’re from?

Me: Nope! And hey, I hope you have a nice evening. Good-bye.

And that was that.

It’s Time To Get Serious!!!

We’ve mentioned in previous articles that one of the secrets to making girls laugh is to find one who already want to laugh with you because they’re into you right from the beginning. Chemistry.

The same goofy (and admittedly lame) jokes that the first two women thought were hilarious, offended the third girl.

Who knows why the first two girls thought I was funny. Maybe they were into me, maybe they like space-related humor.

Ultimately it doesn’t matter as I was just having fun, and they were too.

The fact that girl #3 wasn’t laughing was more indicative of what’s going on with her than with my super-awesome skills with the ladies. Her not joining us in our wacky, fun conversation tells me more about her interest in me (or lack thereof) and her core personality.

She was demanding that I enter her stark, bland world of serious questions, serious answers and serious seriousness.

For guys looking to identify a woman who’s both totally into him and has a great matching personality, nothing should set off the red alert alarms faster than her not laughing. I wished them all adieu and took my leave to the  other end of the party where my audience was much more receptive and much more fun.

Making Girls Laugh Is A Tool

Remember, making girls laugh is simply another tool for Identifying women who are into you. It’s also extremely useful for helping you enjoy yourself with a woman who likes you while allowing her to have fun too. Girls just want to have fun.

If she wants to get serious, especially so early in the interaction, my advice is to simply cut her loose and go find a woman better suited to you, because Ms. Serious is going to seriously spoil your spirits the longer you keep her around.

And it works both ways, guys. It’s your job to avoid taking a turn down serious street too, unless you want the high quality women to drop you like a sack of bricks. Ignore the Hollywood myth that women want a guy who gets serious and shares his emotions. It sounds nice and romantic, but it never works out in real life. The strongest couples we have seen and interviewed always keep that playful element strong years and even decades into the relationship.

Rule #1: Never take anything she says or does seriously.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594645352) } [5]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(19) "Screening Hot Girls" ["link"]=> string(58) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/screening-hot-girls/" ["comments"]=> string(66) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/screening-hot-girls/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 12:48:31 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(67) "Dating Adviceadviceapproach beautiful womendatedatinghot womenwomen" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5381" ["description"]=> string(335) "When you’re getting out and about to meet more women, we highly recommend only approaching the hot ones. By hot, we mean only women who you personally find attractive – whatever floats your boat. This means do NOT approach ones who don’t do it for you. Why? If you only approach hot girls, then you’ll only get hot […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(3976) "

When you’re getting out and about to meet more women, we highly recommend only approaching the hot ones. By hot, we mean only women who you personally find attractive – whatever floats your boat. This means do NOT approach ones who don’t do it for you.

Why?

If you only approach hot girls, then you’ll only get hot girls’ numbers. If you only have hot girls’ numbers, you can only go on dates with hot girls. If you only go on dates with hot girls, then beauty becomes the bare minimum requirement for the women in your life and you can begin to screen for other qualities such as her core behavior and attitude.

“Qualifying” Vs. Screening

This is the big difference between what lots of dating advice out there calls “qualifying” and what we call screening.

Qualifying is “fishing” for things about the girl that you can compliment her on in order to make her “feel” like you like her for more than just her looks. It’s dishonest. And even when guys are trying to be honest with it, it’s unnecessary and hurts their own standing with the girl.

Here’s an example of what we would consider “qualifying:”

Guy: Do you play an instrument?

Really Hot Girl: Well, I used to play trombone about 15 years ago in middle school.

Guy: Whoooooa, sweet! You’re a muscian! I love girls who are into music!

Here’s an example of what we consider screening:

Really Hot Girl: Do you have a girlfriend?

You: You’re actually the very first girl I’ve ever talked to! I’m really shy.

Really Hot Girl: Haha! Yeah, right!

You: How about you? Do you have a boyfriend?

Really Hot Girl: Oh well, I just broke up with my ex a couple months ago. He makes me so mad, you know?! Whenever I still see him around sometimes since I know what parties he’ll be at, and I make sure to let him have a piece of my mind!

You: Cool. (Internally thinking: Run! Disqualified! Time to go meet some other women.)

 

ust because she’s hot doesn’t mean you should lower your standards. Keep your hotness screen on!

Qualifying is trying to force women to have some quality about them that you like about them, even when they don’t.

Screening is getting rid of the ones who actually don’t have anything you like about them. Or getting rid of women who have qualities you don’t want in a mate.

Qualifying is manipulative, feels nerve-wracking and doesn’t work on women who aren’t into you.

Screening allows you to maintain your dignity, accepts reality as it is and allows you to find women who are into you about 750% faster than Chasing.

Qualifying is a trick to try to convince hot girls that guys have a legit reason for being into them besides their looks.

Screening is when good looks for your dates are the bare minimum requirement and you’re starting to look deeper at their core personalities and attitudes.

Qualifying presupposes that you will like the girl no matter what as long as she is hot, all you have to do is rationalize what you like about her. (Read: no standards)

Screening presupposes that you are willing to drop a girl, even if she’s hot, if she doesn’t live up to your standards.

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When you’re getting out and about to meet more women, we highly recommend only approaching the hot ones. By hot, we mean only women who you personally find attractive – whatever floats your boat. This means do NOT approach ones who don’t do it for you.

Why?

If you only approach hot girls, then you’ll only get hot girls’ numbers. If you only have hot girls’ numbers, you can only go on dates with hot girls. If you only go on dates with hot girls, then beauty becomes the bare minimum requirement for the women in your life and you can begin to screen for other qualities such as her core behavior and attitude.

“Qualifying” Vs. Screening

This is the big difference between what lots of dating advice out there calls “qualifying” and what we call screening.

Qualifying is “fishing” for things about the girl that you can compliment her on in order to make her “feel” like you like her for more than just her looks. It’s dishonest. And even when guys are trying to be honest with it, it’s unnecessary and hurts their own standing with the girl.

Here’s an example of what we would consider “qualifying:”

Guy: Do you play an instrument?

Really Hot Girl: Well, I used to play trombone about 15 years ago in middle school.

Guy: Whoooooa, sweet! You’re a muscian! I love girls who are into music!

Here’s an example of what we consider screening:

Really Hot Girl: Do you have a girlfriend?

You: You’re actually the very first girl I’ve ever talked to! I’m really shy.

Really Hot Girl: Haha! Yeah, right!

You: How about you? Do you have a boyfriend?

Really Hot Girl: Oh well, I just broke up with my ex a couple months ago. He makes me so mad, you know?! Whenever I still see him around sometimes since I know what parties he’ll be at, and I make sure to let him have a piece of my mind!

You: Cool. (Internally thinking: Run! Disqualified! Time to go meet some other women.)

 

ust because she’s hot doesn’t mean you should lower your standards. Keep your hotness screen on!

Qualifying is trying to force women to have some quality about them that you like about them, even when they don’t.

Screening is getting rid of the ones who actually don’t have anything you like about them. Or getting rid of women who have qualities you don’t want in a mate.

Qualifying is manipulative, feels nerve-wracking and doesn’t work on women who aren’t into you.

Screening allows you to maintain your dignity, accepts reality as it is and allows you to find women who are into you about 750% faster than Chasing.

Qualifying is a trick to try to convince hot girls that guys have a legit reason for being into them besides their looks.

Screening is when good looks for your dates are the bare minimum requirement and you’re starting to look deeper at their core personalities and attitudes.

Qualifying presupposes that you will like the girl no matter what as long as she is hot, all you have to do is rationalize what you like about her. (Read: no standards)

Screening presupposes that you are willing to drop a girl, even if she’s hot, if she doesn’t live up to your standards.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594644511) } [6]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(43) "Reader Question: How To Date Multiple Women" ["link"]=> string(81) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/reader-question-how-to-date-multiple-women/" ["comments"]=> string(89) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/reader-question-how-to-date-multiple-women/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 12:36:21 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(10) "Andrew Tch" } ["category"]=> string(29) "Dating Adviceadvicedatedating" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5378" ["description"]=> string(316) "Why is it so hard to figure out how to date multiple women at once without much effort? Here are some simple strategies and actions to help you date multiple women at the same time… Dear Loveawake, I’ve been dating 4 different girls and wondering how I will juggle them this coming weekend. Each of […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(8214) "

Why is it so hard to figure out how to date multiple women at once without much effort? Here are some simple strategies and actions to help you date multiple women at the same time…

Dear Loveawake,

I’ve been dating 4 different girls and wondering how I will juggle them this coming weekend. Each of them is texting me like crazy and vying for my time. It’s a problem I’ve never had before. Advice, please.

-Dude X

This is a common problem for guys who have had a bit of success with women, but haven’t developed the management skills needed: Why is it so hard to date multiple women at once without much effort?

Well, it’s not all that hard, but you gotta change your thinking first. Then you can start to develop some real management skills.

How To Date Multiple Women: It Starts Here

Most guys enter the whole “Dating Community” with some experience when it comes to women. Many have had long-term girlfriends before, but it’s usually been one at a time; sequential rather than simultaneous.

Once they start reading the standard ‘dating’ fare, studying the videos, and even attend some ‘Bootcamps’ out there, they begin meeting more women and then suddenly they find their lives spinning out of control as their social calendar overloads, text messages coming at them from all directions, and women all over the place whining and whinging for attention.

(Yeah, such a problem! you might say. But trust us, it gets old really fast, and there’s something decidedly un-masculine when a guy sits in Starbucks by himself for hours at a time, just staring zombie-like at his Smart-phone while typing away furiously.)

Most of the material out there just talks about getting the girl, but not about how to maintain an even keel and keep things flowing smoothly and easily.

Today we’ll discuss a few of the key elements guys need to be aware of in order to take control of their lives and time in order to have more success with women, and a whole lotta less aggra, besides.

How To Date Multiple Women: Stop The ‘Magical Thinking’

Keep in mind most of what we’re advocating here challenges a lot of the limiting beliefs rampant in the Seduction Community, but if guys are intellectually honest and do their best to objectively challenge their assumptions, they’ll come out at the other end with a much better self-image and improved self-esteem as they better learn how to not only separate the chaff from the wheat, but get out of the granary altogether and search for more nutritious fare.

Just as having the right ‘internal state’ or ‘inner game’ is pretty much irrelevant when a semi is barreling down on one at 70 mphs – way too many guys drank the ‘Inner Game will solve all my problems’ kool-aid and then kid themselves into believing that right action will just ‘magically’ occur and they’ll be naturally walking the path of success with women if they simply strive to be void of ego, centered in their Infinite Mojo, dipping deep into the Eternal Nimbus, and other such claptrap (sadly, this is all stuff we’ve seen pushed onto too many guys whose only real problem is that they aren’t meeting enough women).

Sure, it feels really groovy to believe ‘I am enough and I can do anything, I am the Prize, I can Lead Her and Endure Her Tests, my Internal State continues to change as I push my personal boundaries to learn and grow, blah blah blah,’ but none of that crap is gonna save you when girls are burnin’ up your text Inbox and you haven’t got a plan in mind to arrange and prioritize your dancecard.

It’s the fallacy of ‘Magical Thinking’ in action when one is existing simply at effect, flying by the seat of one’s pants, and basically living on a wing and a prayer. Sure, it’s exhilarating yes, but hardly measured and steady.

So let’s just stop with all the airy-fairy, feely-goody gobbledygook and give you some nuts and bolts to get your woman thang under control.

How To Date Multiple Women: Simplify

First off, ixnay the uggling-jay; it’s un-manly.

‘Juggling’ implies a situation that’s out of control, requiring lots of time and energy to keep shit from spilling all over the place and making a mess.

Rather, manage your ladies and manage your time.

Yes, we date multiple women at the same time until we find one we really like and go exclusive with her. We schedule these ladies throughout the week for lunches, dinners, and fun times afterwards.

Since none of them are our exclusive girlfriend, we don’t see any of them on the weekends. We keep our weekends free to hang with our buddies, enjoy our manly hobbies, and keep the ladies guessing as to who we’re with, what we’re doing, and where we are.

Once you give a girl a weekend, she’ll expect it ALL the time, and when you slot in a different lady to take her place, she’ll most likely get all upset and give you no end of grief.

Better to never have to deal with the problem in the first place.

Ask your ladies out for weekdays and weekday evenings, making sure to never see any one of them more than once a week – ten days, or so. More and they start seeing you as a boyfriend (even if you say you aren’t one), less and it’s just plain rude unless she’s totally down with being basically just a jump-off (yes, there are ladies like that out there).

Keep your ladies well-managed and yourself outta trouble.

How To Date Multiple Women: Unplug Your Umbilical Cord

Next, unplug your umbilical cord from your DumbPhone and stop with all this texting.

It’s lame and un-manly.

We always tell our guys that a major key to success with women is giving them the gift of missing you.

How can they ‘miss’ you when you’re constantly up their butts with text messages?

Answer: you can’t!

Skype, Line, What App, Facebook, yada yada may as well be the spawn of the devil when it comes to dating women who have a lot going for them in life.

We’re all about managing and simplifying things for guys when it comes to their interactions with women. All it takes is a one-minute phone call once a week or so to ask her out on a date.

Four women means you’ll be spending about 4 minutes on the phone every week – 6 minutes max.

Compare that with the hours guys typically waste giving themselves carpal tunnel syndrome just so they can ‘get a little.’ C’mon, guys! Just call her up and say,

Hey, Her Name, it’s Dude X. How’re you doing. Fine, thanks for asking. I’m calling to ask you out for a date – billiards and Mexican. We’ll have a lot of fun. Which is better for you, next Tuesday evening or Wednesday. Cool. I’ll pick you up at your place say around 7pm. I had a fun time talking to you. Bye.

That’s all there is to it.

Then – as they say in Las Vegas – you go ‘dark’: You don’t call her, you don’t text her, you have no contact with her.

Let her think you were abducted by aliens or whisked away by the FBI and stashed in Witness Protection.

Gone.

Whoosh.

That gets her missing you and wondering about you (mostly wondering if you’re wondering about her wondering about you, actually).

When guys stop with all the fuzzy-wuzzy Inner Game self-help BS and start utilizing a tight framework of actual measurable, actionable steps that get them consistent positive results, they’ll start to see some real change in their lives.

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Why is it so hard to figure out how to date multiple women at once without much effort? Here are some simple strategies and actions to help you date multiple women at the same time…

Dear Loveawake,

I’ve been dating 4 different girls and wondering how I will juggle them this coming weekend. Each of them is texting me like crazy and vying for my time. It’s a problem I’ve never had before. Advice, please.

-Dude X

This is a common problem for guys who have had a bit of success with women, but haven’t developed the management skills needed: Why is it so hard to date multiple women at once without much effort?

Well, it’s not all that hard, but you gotta change your thinking first. Then you can start to develop some real management skills.

How To Date Multiple Women: It Starts Here

Most guys enter the whole “Dating Community” with some experience when it comes to women. Many have had long-term girlfriends before, but it’s usually been one at a time; sequential rather than simultaneous.

Once they start reading the standard ‘dating’ fare, studying the videos, and even attend some ‘Bootcamps’ out there, they begin meeting more women and then suddenly they find their lives spinning out of control as their social calendar overloads, text messages coming at them from all directions, and women all over the place whining and whinging for attention.

(Yeah, such a problem! you might say. But trust us, it gets old really fast, and there’s something decidedly un-masculine when a guy sits in Starbucks by himself for hours at a time, just staring zombie-like at his Smart-phone while typing away furiously.)

Most of the material out there just talks about getting the girl, but not about how to maintain an even keel and keep things flowing smoothly and easily.

Today we’ll discuss a few of the key elements guys need to be aware of in order to take control of their lives and time in order to have more success with women, and a whole lotta less aggra, besides.

How To Date Multiple Women: Stop The ‘Magical Thinking’

Keep in mind most of what we’re advocating here challenges a lot of the limiting beliefs rampant in the Seduction Community, but if guys are intellectually honest and do their best to objectively challenge their assumptions, they’ll come out at the other end with a much better self-image and improved self-esteem as they better learn how to not only separate the chaff from the wheat, but get out of the granary altogether and search for more nutritious fare.

Just as having the right ‘internal state’ or ‘inner game’ is pretty much irrelevant when a semi is barreling down on one at 70 mphs – way too many guys drank the ‘Inner Game will solve all my problems’ kool-aid and then kid themselves into believing that right action will just ‘magically’ occur and they’ll be naturally walking the path of success with women if they simply strive to be void of ego, centered in their Infinite Mojo, dipping deep into the Eternal Nimbus, and other such claptrap (sadly, this is all stuff we’ve seen pushed onto too many guys whose only real problem is that they aren’t meeting enough women).

Sure, it feels really groovy to believe ‘I am enough and I can do anything, I am the Prize, I can Lead Her and Endure Her Tests, my Internal State continues to change as I push my personal boundaries to learn and grow, blah blah blah,’ but none of that crap is gonna save you when girls are burnin’ up your text Inbox and you haven’t got a plan in mind to arrange and prioritize your dancecard.

It’s the fallacy of ‘Magical Thinking’ in action when one is existing simply at effect, flying by the seat of one’s pants, and basically living on a wing and a prayer. Sure, it’s exhilarating yes, but hardly measured and steady.

So let’s just stop with all the airy-fairy, feely-goody gobbledygook and give you some nuts and bolts to get your woman thang under control.

How To Date Multiple Women: Simplify

First off, ixnay the uggling-jay; it’s un-manly.

‘Juggling’ implies a situation that’s out of control, requiring lots of time and energy to keep shit from spilling all over the place and making a mess.

Rather, manage your ladies and manage your time.

Yes, we date multiple women at the same time until we find one we really like and go exclusive with her. We schedule these ladies throughout the week for lunches, dinners, and fun times afterwards.

Since none of them are our exclusive girlfriend, we don’t see any of them on the weekends. We keep our weekends free to hang with our buddies, enjoy our manly hobbies, and keep the ladies guessing as to who we’re with, what we’re doing, and where we are.

Once you give a girl a weekend, she’ll expect it ALL the time, and when you slot in a different lady to take her place, she’ll most likely get all upset and give you no end of grief.

Better to never have to deal with the problem in the first place.

Ask your ladies out for weekdays and weekday evenings, making sure to never see any one of them more than once a week – ten days, or so. More and they start seeing you as a boyfriend (even if you say you aren’t one), less and it’s just plain rude unless she’s totally down with being basically just a jump-off (yes, there are ladies like that out there).

Keep your ladies well-managed and yourself outta trouble.

How To Date Multiple Women: Unplug Your Umbilical Cord

Next, unplug your umbilical cord from your DumbPhone and stop with all this texting.

It’s lame and un-manly.

We always tell our guys that a major key to success with women is giving them the gift of missing you.

How can they ‘miss’ you when you’re constantly up their butts with text messages?

Answer: you can’t!

Skype, Line, What App, Facebook, yada yada may as well be the spawn of the devil when it comes to dating women who have a lot going for them in life.

We’re all about managing and simplifying things for guys when it comes to their interactions with women. All it takes is a one-minute phone call once a week or so to ask her out on a date.

Four women means you’ll be spending about 4 minutes on the phone every week – 6 minutes max.

Compare that with the hours guys typically waste giving themselves carpal tunnel syndrome just so they can ‘get a little.’ C’mon, guys! Just call her up and say,

Hey, Her Name, it’s Dude X. How’re you doing. Fine, thanks for asking. I’m calling to ask you out for a date – billiards and Mexican. We’ll have a lot of fun. Which is better for you, next Tuesday evening or Wednesday. Cool. I’ll pick you up at your place say around 7pm. I had a fun time talking to you. Bye.

That’s all there is to it.

Then – as they say in Las Vegas – you go ‘dark’: You don’t call her, you don’t text her, you have no contact with her.

Let her think you were abducted by aliens or whisked away by the FBI and stashed in Witness Protection.

Gone.

Whoosh.

That gets her missing you and wondering about you (mostly wondering if you’re wondering about her wondering about you, actually).

When guys stop with all the fuzzy-wuzzy Inner Game self-help BS and start utilizing a tight framework of actual measurable, actionable steps that get them consistent positive results, they’ll start to see some real change in their lives.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594643781) } [7]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(47) "Should Guys Read ’50 Shades of Grey’ Books?" ["link"]=> string(79) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/should-guys-read-50-shades-of-grey-books/" ["comments"]=> string(87) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/should-guys-read-50-shades-of-grey-books/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 12:25:03 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(24) "Dating AdviceInteresting" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5374" ["description"]=> string(356) "It’s supposedly the hottest erotic novel in decades, so should guys be checking it out? Read our take on the ’50 Shades of Grey’ phenomenon. Let’s make one thing perfectly clear – this is NOT a review of the ’50 Shades’ trilogy. Mainly because all three books have been hilariously ripped apart by the brilliant Katrina […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6642) "

It’s supposedly the hottest erotic novel in decades, so should guys be checking it out? Read our take on the ’50 Shades of Grey’ phenomenon.

Let’s make one thing perfectly clear – this is NOT a review of the ’50 Shades’ trilogy. Mainly because all three books have been hilariously ripped apart by the brilliant Katrina Lumsden – no, really, her reviews are totally funny and worth checking out – and I have nothing to add. Go ahead, give them a read and I’ll wait here. Promise.

So you’ve now got a general idea what the brou-ha-ha is all out about when it comes to the tale of Ana Steele and Christian Gray.

Haha.

Worth the chuckles, eh?

Good.

Now, back on point.

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty – should you, as a guy, bother picking up this trash and reading it?

Our answer is a very carefully qualified ‘It Depends.’

Should guys read it? Read this article for the answer.

If the women you seem to attract and date are all bringing ’50 Shades’ up as a topic of conversation, if it seems that no matter which girl you open when and where that sometime during your initial date SHE’s the one who opens the ’50 Shades’ box and wants to talk about it, then absolutely YES! You definitely should read these books. By reading them all cover to cover, at the very least you’ll have an understanding of what she’s going on about. At best, you’ll have the opportunity to disqualify her for being bat-shit insane and not worth your emotional investment. 

(You can, of course, still date her as long as you remember the score and keep your emotions in check. Good luck.)

Keep in mind that she must be the one who initiates the discussion on ’50 Shades’ – not you – and as long as the guy does not tip his hand immediately (if ever) that he’s read them, then the Cool Guy can get some good interview questions in that will let his date talk up a storm.

And, in her mind, that’s what a good date is all about: she gets to talk and talk about stuff that interests her while the guy nods and smiles and grunts occasionally. That makes her feel comfortable that he’s willing to listen to her, and that drives up her liking him (assuming she actually liked him from the beginning).

When it comes to ’50 Shades’ here are some good interview questions to ask:

  • “Tell me 3 things about the books that you really liked?”
  • “What character/s could you relate to best and why?”
  • “Which scenes in the book most resonated with you, and why?”
  • “Why do you think these books are said to be sooo popular with women right now?”

The answers to those questions should lead to some excellent follow-up questions and keep her talking for a good long while.

If your date liked the books for the sex scenes, be sure to carefully read and study Philip Miller and Molly Devon’s classic ‘Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns’ the absolute best introduction and tour through the fascinating world of BDSM. There’s lots of gold to be mined in that book.

Is she looking for a guy like Christian Gray?

If she says so, you’ll definitely want to find out what aspect about him she finds so attractive. If she tells you it’s his money, good looks, great family, and ‘generosity’ (read he happily buys me expensive things like cars, houses, and jewelry), and that’s not you, then at least you know what you’re getting yourself into. You’re at Golddigger Central – be sure to mind the doors as they close on your head.

More than a decade ago, HBO’s ‘Sex and the City’ messed up the minds of an entire generation of women in their late 20s/early 30s and made them pretty much useless as far as relationships go; filling their heads with all kinds of crap about what their expectations should be (EVERYTHING! I want it ALL – and now!!) along with what their responsibilities and obligations were (none!) when it came to their romantic partners and relationships. ’50 Shades of Grey’ is merely a reboot of this tired, selfish attitude so prevalent in low-value women today.

Now, what about all you guys who haven’t encountered any ladies at all who want to talk about these books?

What if it never comes up as a topic of discussion?

In that case, lucky boy, just don’t bother with them. Just let that sleeping dog lie and quietly walk on past. The stories are total trash and nothing to concern yourself over. Just another shovel of steaming horse dung foist upon us by popular culture to create a greater divide between women and men to make it more difficult for both sides to develop the emotional maturity to enjoy mutually fulfilling relationships.

Nothing you haven’t seen a million times before.

Be grateful you’ve been spared the agony of reading them. Remember, poor Katrina still in rehab after reading them and she’s a SHE.

But you still might want to check out the Miller and Devon book.

Because nothing beats a great mutually agreed-upon fantasy between consenting adults.

Very colorful times, indeed.

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It’s supposedly the hottest erotic novel in decades, so should guys be checking it out? Read our take on the ’50 Shades of Grey’ phenomenon.

Let’s make one thing perfectly clear – this is NOT a review of the ’50 Shades’ trilogy. Mainly because all three books have been hilariously ripped apart by the brilliant Katrina Lumsden – no, really, her reviews are totally funny and worth checking out – and I have nothing to add. Go ahead, give them a read and I’ll wait here. Promise.

So you’ve now got a general idea what the brou-ha-ha is all out about when it comes to the tale of Ana Steele and Christian Gray.

Haha.

Worth the chuckles, eh?

Good.

Now, back on point.

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty – should you, as a guy, bother picking up this trash and reading it?

Our answer is a very carefully qualified ‘It Depends.’

Should guys read it? Read this article for the answer.

If the women you seem to attract and date are all bringing ’50 Shades’ up as a topic of conversation, if it seems that no matter which girl you open when and where that sometime during your initial date SHE’s the one who opens the ’50 Shades’ box and wants to talk about it, then absolutely YES! You definitely should read these books. By reading them all cover to cover, at the very least you’ll have an understanding of what she’s going on about. At best, you’ll have the opportunity to disqualify her for being bat-shit insane and not worth your emotional investment. 

(You can, of course, still date her as long as you remember the score and keep your emotions in check. Good luck.)

Keep in mind that she must be the one who initiates the discussion on ’50 Shades’ – not you – and as long as the guy does not tip his hand immediately (if ever) that he’s read them, then the Cool Guy can get some good interview questions in that will let his date talk up a storm.

And, in her mind, that’s what a good date is all about: she gets to talk and talk about stuff that interests her while the guy nods and smiles and grunts occasionally. That makes her feel comfortable that he’s willing to listen to her, and that drives up her liking him (assuming she actually liked him from the beginning).

When it comes to ’50 Shades’ here are some good interview questions to ask:

  • “Tell me 3 things about the books that you really liked?”
  • “What character/s could you relate to best and why?”
  • “Which scenes in the book most resonated with you, and why?”
  • “Why do you think these books are said to be sooo popular with women right now?”

The answers to those questions should lead to some excellent follow-up questions and keep her talking for a good long while.

If your date liked the books for the sex scenes, be sure to carefully read and study Philip Miller and Molly Devon’s classic ‘Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns’ the absolute best introduction and tour through the fascinating world of BDSM. There’s lots of gold to be mined in that book.

Is she looking for a guy like Christian Gray?

If she says so, you’ll definitely want to find out what aspect about him she finds so attractive. If she tells you it’s his money, good looks, great family, and ‘generosity’ (read he happily buys me expensive things like cars, houses, and jewelry), and that’s not you, then at least you know what you’re getting yourself into. You’re at Golddigger Central – be sure to mind the doors as they close on your head.

More than a decade ago, HBO’s ‘Sex and the City’ messed up the minds of an entire generation of women in their late 20s/early 30s and made them pretty much useless as far as relationships go; filling their heads with all kinds of crap about what their expectations should be (EVERYTHING! I want it ALL – and now!!) along with what their responsibilities and obligations were (none!) when it came to their romantic partners and relationships. ’50 Shades of Grey’ is merely a reboot of this tired, selfish attitude so prevalent in low-value women today.

Now, what about all you guys who haven’t encountered any ladies at all who want to talk about these books?

What if it never comes up as a topic of discussion?

In that case, lucky boy, just don’t bother with them. Just let that sleeping dog lie and quietly walk on past. The stories are total trash and nothing to concern yourself over. Just another shovel of steaming horse dung foist upon us by popular culture to create a greater divide between women and men to make it more difficult for both sides to develop the emotional maturity to enjoy mutually fulfilling relationships.

Nothing you haven’t seen a million times before.

Be grateful you’ve been spared the agony of reading them. Remember, poor Katrina still in rehab after reading them and she’s a SHE.

But you still might want to check out the Miller and Devon book.

Because nothing beats a great mutually agreed-upon fantasy between consenting adults.

Very colorful times, indeed.

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Want to know the absolute best time to approach girls? After thousands of tests and years of research, we’ve discovered the best time to approach women. Read on to discover when to approach.

Just imagine if you knew the perfect time to approach girls… Then you could feel good about going to approach women, so long as it was the right timing.

Today, we share the answer to the question: When is the best time to approach girls?

And the answer is…

Right now!

Because…

Warning: There Is One Caveat!

When is the best time to approach girls? Read more to learn the perfect time to approach.

None of anything anyone has ever written on the topic of approaching women matters at all unless you get up and go take action right now.

That means you must physically draw your body away from the computer. Pull your hands up and away from the keyboard. If you’re in a chair, stand up. If you’re dressed well, continue out the door. If not, go put on a suit. Step away from the PC, go to the front door, step outside and go start talking to women right now.

Seriously.

Go.

Come back when you’re done and record your thoughts about what happened. Take down stats if you talked to a whole bunch of girls.

Above all, enjoy yourself, learn a whole lot, and let us know how it went (leave a comment below!).

But seriously…

Go…

Now…

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Want to know the absolute best time to approach girls? After thousands of tests and years of research, we’ve discovered the best time to approach women. Read on to discover when to approach.

Just imagine if you knew the perfect time to approach girls… Then you could feel good about going to approach women, so long as it was the right timing.

Today, we share the answer to the question: When is the best time to approach girls?

And the answer is…

Right now!

Because…

Warning: There Is One Caveat!

When is the best time to approach girls? Read more to learn the perfect time to approach.

None of anything anyone has ever written on the topic of approaching women matters at all unless you get up and go take action right now.

That means you must physically draw your body away from the computer. Pull your hands up and away from the keyboard. If you’re in a chair, stand up. If you’re dressed well, continue out the door. If not, go put on a suit. Step away from the PC, go to the front door, step outside and go start talking to women right now.

Seriously.

Go.

Come back when you’re done and record your thoughts about what happened. Take down stats if you talked to a whole bunch of girls.

Above all, enjoy yourself, learn a whole lot, and let us know how it went (leave a comment below!).

But seriously…

Go…

Now…

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594642115) } [9]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(49) "4 Deadly Topics That Ruin Good Date Conversations" ["link"]=> string(88) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/4-deadly-topics-that-ruin-good-date-conversations/" ["comments"]=> string(96) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/4-deadly-topics-that-ruin-good-date-conversations/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 11:03:09 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(48) "Dating Adviceadvicecommunicationdatingfirst date" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5364" ["description"]=> string(307) "One of the questions about women we often get from guys is “What should I say when I first meet her?” Because of the huge range of good date conversation topics, this can be a tricky question. It’s much easier to focus on the question, “What should I AVOID saying when I first meet her?” […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6952) "

One of the questions about women we often get from guys is “What should I say when I first meet her?” Because of the huge range of good date conversation topics, this can be a tricky question. It’s much easier to focus on the question, “What should I AVOID saying when I first meet her?”

With that in mind, we’re presenting you a handful of topics that you definitely do NOT want to bring up if you want to impress your date. Yes, some of these may may fly right in the face of what commonly passes as dating advice for men these days. However, we don’t hold back when it comes to dispelling myths about generic, socially-acceptable yet ultimately useless and/or harmful men’s dating advice. Kiss your sacred cows good-bye. Our advice to you is based on statistical proof of what helps guys enjoy exciting, fulfilling dates with high quality women.

Political discussion with a woman you’re meeting for the first time? Don’t go there!

1. Good date conversation does NOT include talking about politics, religion or your dead pet chameleon

Don’t. Just don’t. Not only does talking about topics like these repel attractive women faster than body odor, nobody even cares about anyone else’s soapbox tirades. Everyone’s got an opinion, and they’d much rather you LISTEN to theirs rather than spout yours off. This one’s easy – just avoid these topics, and if they come up, joke them off while redirecting the conversation back to something light, playful and funny.

2. Listing accomplishments, skills or bragging is not good date conversation and here’s why…

Some guys go on and on endlessly about each and every accomplishment in their lives. And once again, nobody cares. Women want to talk about themselves, and they want YOU to LISTEN.

The PUA call it a ‘DHV story’ because they think it demonstrates or displays high value. We call it bragging. While it may not be subtle enough for you and your bro’s to realize it is bragging, high value women know it for what it is. At the end of the day, a brag is a brag is a brag, no matter what hip, cool label you attach to it.

If she likes you right from the beginning, brag stories will work because, well, she already likes you (until she realizes that the only people who brag are the ones who are over-compensating). And if she doesn’t like the guy right off the bat, then no ‘cool story’ he shares with her is ever going to change her mind about how to feel about him on a core level (although the ill-intentioned girl out there might become convinced that you will give them free dates, meals, or attention).

Keep the conversation about her, while making her laugh. This is especially important for when you’re meeting women on the street, in bookstores, in cafes and other daily life places out and about town.

3. Talk about past girlfriends is really (really, really) not good date conversation

Don’t ever talk about them. The past is the past is the past. When any guy (or woman, for that matter) brings up an ex, someone they hooked up with years ago or even a crush from their elementary school day, it’s no longer the past. By speaking about it, it has become the PRESENT… And that basically throws a monkey wrench into the whole smooth, happy, light, playful and fun interaction we’re hoping to have with this girl we just met. That’s a lot of heavy, especially for someone we barely even know.

Some guys might say, “Oh, but that’s not true! When I was talking to this chick about how she looks like my old girlfriend, she smiled, leaned in, nodded emphatically and laughed!” While that might be true, we’re always thinking big and thinking of the long game here at Loveawake. Women can (and likely will) remember and use any random guys’ happy trip down ex-girlfriend memory lane against them at the most inopportune time.

It’s a topic that, if it doesn’t turn things sour immediately right there and then when you’re meeting her for the first time, will inevitably come back later to take a nice, healthy chomp out of your posterior. So keep the past in the past where it belongs. If you really think you need to talk about it… Well, you’re probably not meeting enough new women.

4. Please don’t talk about past mistakes or embarrassing moments with girls (but only if you want good date conversation)

When we’re interacting with women, whether we’re stepping to her on the street to get her number or putting our best foot forward on the first date, we strive to cultivate a good Image. And with that Image, we’re not aiming for perfection or invincibility. We are, however, aiming for Amazingness – and that means NOT vomiting out the sordid details about our past blunders. If she likes you, she will imagine you as Amazing a guy as you let her. Don’t take yourself off the pedestal.

We sometimes hear guys argue that sharing their less-than-flattering moments with women they meet or date shows off their vulnerability in an attractive way, something akin to the allure of the hair-pulled-over-one-eye-guitar-playing-emo-boy. Some ‘seduction’ guys might even go so far as to package this story up as deliberate “vulnerability gambit” to offset their ‘player’ vibe. And if she’s really into the guy, then it’ll work… Because anything else he does will work (as she’s already into him). However, rather than set a bad precedent with the vulnerability games, it’s much better in the long run to work on interacting with her in a way that let’s you build happy, fulfilling experiences with high quality women so that when the the Right Girl comes into your life, you’re ready.

Be happy that she doesn’t yet know about the goofy mistakes in your past. If she’s a really great girl who’s intelligent, really into you and ends up dating you for a long time, she’ll probably find them all out on her own without you ever needing to tell her. Don’t salt your own game by bringing up old, weird stuff.

To sum up, don’t talk about the above. Keep your eyes and ears open and keep her laughing.

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One of the questions about women we often get from guys is “What should I say when I first meet her?” Because of the huge range of good date conversation topics, this can be a tricky question. It’s much easier to focus on the question, “What should I AVOID saying when I first meet her?”

With that in mind, we’re presenting you a handful of topics that you definitely do NOT want to bring up if you want to impress your date. Yes, some of these may may fly right in the face of what commonly passes as dating advice for men these days. However, we don’t hold back when it comes to dispelling myths about generic, socially-acceptable yet ultimately useless and/or harmful men’s dating advice. Kiss your sacred cows good-bye. Our advice to you is based on statistical proof of what helps guys enjoy exciting, fulfilling dates with high quality women.

Political discussion with a woman you’re meeting for the first time? Don’t go there!

1. Good date conversation does NOT include talking about politics, religion or your dead pet chameleon

Don’t. Just don’t. Not only does talking about topics like these repel attractive women faster than body odor, nobody even cares about anyone else’s soapbox tirades. Everyone’s got an opinion, and they’d much rather you LISTEN to theirs rather than spout yours off. This one’s easy – just avoid these topics, and if they come up, joke them off while redirecting the conversation back to something light, playful and funny.

2. Listing accomplishments, skills or bragging is not good date conversation and here’s why…

Some guys go on and on endlessly about each and every accomplishment in their lives. And once again, nobody cares. Women want to talk about themselves, and they want YOU to LISTEN.

The PUA call it a ‘DHV story’ because they think it demonstrates or displays high value. We call it bragging. While it may not be subtle enough for you and your bro’s to realize it is bragging, high value women know it for what it is. At the end of the day, a brag is a brag is a brag, no matter what hip, cool label you attach to it.

If she likes you right from the beginning, brag stories will work because, well, she already likes you (until she realizes that the only people who brag are the ones who are over-compensating). And if she doesn’t like the guy right off the bat, then no ‘cool story’ he shares with her is ever going to change her mind about how to feel about him on a core level (although the ill-intentioned girl out there might become convinced that you will give them free dates, meals, or attention).

Keep the conversation about her, while making her laugh. This is especially important for when you’re meeting women on the street, in bookstores, in cafes and other daily life places out and about town.

3. Talk about past girlfriends is really (really, really) not good date conversation

Don’t ever talk about them. The past is the past is the past. When any guy (or woman, for that matter) brings up an ex, someone they hooked up with years ago or even a crush from their elementary school day, it’s no longer the past. By speaking about it, it has become the PRESENT… And that basically throws a monkey wrench into the whole smooth, happy, light, playful and fun interaction we’re hoping to have with this girl we just met. That’s a lot of heavy, especially for someone we barely even know.

Some guys might say, “Oh, but that’s not true! When I was talking to this chick about how she looks like my old girlfriend, she smiled, leaned in, nodded emphatically and laughed!” While that might be true, we’re always thinking big and thinking of the long game here at Loveawake. Women can (and likely will) remember and use any random guys’ happy trip down ex-girlfriend memory lane against them at the most inopportune time.

It’s a topic that, if it doesn’t turn things sour immediately right there and then when you’re meeting her for the first time, will inevitably come back later to take a nice, healthy chomp out of your posterior. So keep the past in the past where it belongs. If you really think you need to talk about it… Well, you’re probably not meeting enough new women.

4. Please don’t talk about past mistakes or embarrassing moments with girls (but only if you want good date conversation)

When we’re interacting with women, whether we’re stepping to her on the street to get her number or putting our best foot forward on the first date, we strive to cultivate a good Image. And with that Image, we’re not aiming for perfection or invincibility. We are, however, aiming for Amazingness – and that means NOT vomiting out the sordid details about our past blunders. If she likes you, she will imagine you as Amazing a guy as you let her. Don’t take yourself off the pedestal.

We sometimes hear guys argue that sharing their less-than-flattering moments with women they meet or date shows off their vulnerability in an attractive way, something akin to the allure of the hair-pulled-over-one-eye-guitar-playing-emo-boy. Some ‘seduction’ guys might even go so far as to package this story up as deliberate “vulnerability gambit” to offset their ‘player’ vibe. And if she’s really into the guy, then it’ll work… Because anything else he does will work (as she’s already into him). However, rather than set a bad precedent with the vulnerability games, it’s much better in the long run to work on interacting with her in a way that let’s you build happy, fulfilling experiences with high quality women so that when the the Right Girl comes into your life, you’re ready.

Be happy that she doesn’t yet know about the goofy mistakes in your past. If she’s a really great girl who’s intelligent, really into you and ends up dating you for a long time, she’ll probably find them all out on her own without you ever needing to tell her. Don’t salt your own game by bringing up old, weird stuff.

To sum up, don’t talk about the above. Keep your eyes and ears open and keep her laughing.

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